Holy moly! The first week of school is definitely a little bit different for our family this year. I know we only moved one city over but to a 1st, 3rd, and 5th grader – it’s a long way from their normal. We dealt with a lot of tears and hand written ‘sad’ notes from our older two kids and it honestly was heart breaking. Sometimes as adults we get so focused on how we feel that we forget about the little ones that really have no say in the matter.
I want my children to feel like they have a say in family decisions. I want them to know that they are valued and what they say matters. It’s easy to push them to the side and not take their feelings seriously but they are emotional beings just like us. They feel every feeling we have but just vocalize it differently than we do and sometimes that can come across as annoying and we tell them to dry it up and move on.
Look I am raising my hand because I am there. I have made those mistakes and I know I will make more but I am deciding today that I will be better with each new day. I will be better with how much patience I have with my children. I will be better with showing them more love and kindness. I will be better at letting them know that they have a voice and that they are a part of our family and when we make decisions they will be in on all of it.
But moves are hard on kids – probably harder on them than on us and I overlooked that these past few months. We not only changed their school but we also sold and moved from a home that all of my children have known since birth. I didn’t take their ‘sad’ notes seriously. I didn’t take the time to sit down with them all and let them know exactly why we moved during that time which made for more frustration for us all.
Over the past few weeks I have been thinking about the four things I have listed below. These four things have helped me when it comes to parenting! It has helped during a time where there were so many unknowns and during times of frustration. I know they may seem like simple things but I believe they are easily overlooked when it comes to dealing with children.
- Love – we need to instill love in our children. We need to let them know daily that they are loved by so many. With bullying being rampant in schools and on social media its crucial that they know how much love their family and friends have for them. They know we love them but showing our love for them means so much to them.
- Patience – lordy this one is hard for me. We ask so much patience out of our children but what are we showing them? Every day I wake up asking God that I am more patience with my children than the day before.
- Kindness – if we don’t show kindness how will our children know how to be kind to others. Role modeling this behavior is crucial to raising children who will treat others the way they want to be treated.
- Independence – this one is so important and much-needed for our children’s success. With being a PreK teacher instilling that independence from the beginning is one of my top goals! Independence equals confidence.
Now I am no parenting expert at all so you don’t have to take my word on any of this but after raising three of my own I feel that I may know something’s, haha! I do know that using those four things above will help our children and also help us as parents.
When we realize that our kids go through the same crap we do, just on a different level, we will begin to handle situations differently. I am definitely a work in progress and I love knowing that every single day I am getting better at this thing!
Praying you all have had a great first week back to school! Remember we need to build each other up, not tear one another down. Lets all get better at this parenting thing together 🙂